It’s funny that this blog seems to attract people who are significantly smarter than I am. Either I have the traits of a much smarter person, or I’m much smarter than I think I am.
I’m going with the first theory. I don’t think I’m much smarter than I think I am.
Some more options for explaining it:
1. The more intelligent a person is, the more alienated they will be (in theory) and so the more they need to rove around seeking someone who understands them. Those with less intelligence may “hop” less often.
2. Your sample set is too small and is therefore biased due to plain old coincidence.
But isn’t it more fun to theorize – about ANYTHING – than to acknowledge the darn sample set size? :D
One more:
3. IQ scores are inaccurate in the genius range. Maybe we are all at the same level, and its the IQ scores that are off.
And of course depression reduces scores, generally speaking. I’ve taken a few online tests and such in recent months. Coming up in the 130s range. On one I got a 114 — definitely the lowest I’ve ever seen on such a test. Took the same test five minutes later (they shuffle from a large DB of questions, so it’s different but similar) and got 136. That’s the free “gigi” test on highiqsociety.org. Hard to put much credence in anything these days though. Been down. Been tired. Everything is dragging. Looking for that second wind.
“Looking for that second wind.”
Yeah. I know what you mean. I have stopped thinking that mine is going to come. It is amazing how much I can get done in the doldrums. Not that I care, hah!
You know, I felt a hell of a lot better after accepting that my relationship is going to end. I was holding out for so much. I was SO patient. It didn’t get me what I wanted and it certainly didn’t give me what I needed. I love my boyfriend and I appreciate all of the things he has done for me and I do appreciate all of the things that he has been to me. But the two most intense needs that I have – for that deep and intense emotional intimacy I am looking for and the need to be excited and impressed by another person’s ambition as well as being emotionally supported by the infectious optimism that comes along with that ambition – were pretty much unfulfilled.
If I had a relationship with someone that did fulfill my needs for emotional intimacy and “ambition support”, I would feel no concern about having friendships with other people who were also emotionally intimate with me or excitingly ambitious. However, if I were to go out seeking those things while they are not strong enough in my romantic relationship, I would probably fall in love with someone else…
So I had actively avoided seeking those things out for a very long time.
But these are needs. I don’t feel alive without them. So I became totally burnt out.
That’s what has made me so absolutely depressed – holding out on myself.
I felt a thousand times better when the liberation sunk in that comes with the end of a relationship – then I could consider possibilities.
Then I had hope that I can get what I need.
Maybe opening your mind to new possibilities would help you.